Do you want to reconnect with your partner when you travel—even when you’re traveling with the kids? Do you feel like you never have any alone time when you go on family vacations? Romance doesn’t have to fall by the wayside just because the kids are there. In fact, your entire trip will be less stressful and more enjoyable if you prioritize time for your significant other. I’ve got four useful tips for how to maintain romance on family vacations. Take my advice and I promise the entire vibe of your vacation will change!
1. Choose your room wisely
There are lots of different options when you book a hotel room, and we always opt for the one-bedroom suite, with an actual door separating us from the kids. It’s not just about sex. Reconnecting with your partner and having alone time is really only possible with some separation. Some hotels will call a room a suite, when in fact there is only a half wall in between the “rooms” or nothing at all. A “junior suite,” for example, is typically one big room, so be aware. With a separate bedroom, you can put the kids to bed early and shut the door. On a cruise, this may not be possible, but if you opt for a room with a balcony, you can put the kids to bed, close the door and have a glass of wine under the stars.
2. Book a babysitter
We can’t all travel with a nanny, even if we are lucky enough to have one in everyday life. Line up childcare before you get to your destination. See if your resort has a kids club where you can drop off the kids for a couple of hours. Hotels will also recommend or refer babysitters who can come to your hotel room, so that you and your partner can go out on a date. Services like Sitters in a Second specialize in providing vacationing families with babysitters, many of whom are even certified. If you know someone at the destination you are visiting, you can also ask them to watch your kids for a short period of time so you can get a break.
3. Plan surprises
A bottle of champagne, a bouquet of roses, or other awaiting gifts in the room upon arrival are all sweet ways to surprise your partner. Who wouldn’t appreciate an unexpected token of affection? If you know your spouse likes a specific piece of art, for example, you can find out if the local museum where you are going has a piece by that artist. Then take him or her on a date, specifically to see that piece. Once there, you can them do something special in front of the art piece. These types of surprises don’t have to be reserved for marriage proposals!
4. Rethink date night
There’s nothing wrong with a dinner date, but mixing things up could make the experience more memorable. Take advantage of the chance to do something you wouldn’t do at home. If you’re at a hotel or resort that offers more than just lodging, you won’t even have to leave the premises. Couple’s massages are a great way to relax, bond, and undo the stress of travel. Often times, booking a spa service means you can take advantage of other amenities at the spa, like hydrotherapy and mineral pools. Find out what concerts, comedy and Broadway shows are playing in the city you’ll be visiting. Discover new artists together. Take a cooking class. Culinary experiences are a big part of travel and you can really immerse yourself in them by doing more than just eating the food. The same goes for wine tastings. Finally, go to a place with a spectacular view of the city you’re visiting. Taking in a grand, new perspective will leave you with indelible memories (and maybe a few frame-able photos).
Remember, it is more than possible to maintain romance on family vacations— it’s vital! Your partner doesn’t have to just be a roommate for the duration of your trip. Pay a little more for a better room, hire a babysitter, leverage the power of surprise, and get creative with your destination date nights. Doing these things will drastically improve your vacation!
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About Carmen Sognonvi
Carmen Sognonvi is a luxury family travel content creator at Top Flight Family, named a top 10 family travel Instagram account by Time Out New York and Brit + Co. Her insights on travel have been featured in The Washington Post, INSIDER, Huffington Post, Wanderlust Travel Magazine, TravelPulse, HOTELS Magazine, and more. Carmen firmly believes that you can (and should) travel with your kids from a young age. She offers families practical solutions for travel, as well as tips on how to travel in luxury for less. She lives in New York City with her multiracial and multicultural family of four. Follow her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest.
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